Hey there everyone! I hope you’re all having a terrific day an that this post reaches you in the best of health. Well, I have to admit that todays article, I write here with an element of excitement as I happened to use the Womens bathroom for the first time a few days ago and feel so much better about myself for doing so.
So, of course, when you do something that gives you a great feeling, then it’s only natural that many of us like to share that experience with others. So here I am sharing my experience with y’all in the form of this article here. So I hope you all enjoy reading it as much as I am enjoying writing it.
Using the Women’s Bathroom for the First Time
Ever since I come out as Trans and started living as a woman full time almost a year ago, I have never felt comfortable at all with using the Male toilets. Yet I have found myself using them on a few occasions over that time when there’s been no Disabled Toilets available to use at the time.
Sometimes I can be in a place that I feel nervous about using the Womens toilets because I suspect that it may cause contention amongst other patrons. Nine out of Ten times though, there are usually Disabled facilities available so I usually end up using them for the sake of an easy life. Or at least it seemed so for a while.
Using the Womens Bathroom
It is an unfortunate and sometimes inconvenient fact of life that we all need to use the toilet on a regular basis. At some point in our day to day lives, we find ourselves having to use Public bathrooms. In many town centres these days, you can find Unisex coin entry toilets. But still many public, customer and staff toilets have separate Men and Women Toilets and fortunately for many people, a lot of places also have a disabled toilet too.
Personally, I tend to use the word “Toilet” instead of “Bathroom” as I only really use these rooms to go Pee or Poop. Theyre not somewhere I would usually hang out or proclaim to be my own space (if I really needed my own space that bad, I’d go into a cubicle or go home). I certainly never ever use them to have a bath in.
The Disabled Toilet
Over the past year, when I need to use the loo and I’m out somewhere or at work, I first look for a disabled toilet. This gives me a spacious isolated room to myself with no question of gender involved. I also works really well when I need to fix my make-up as it usually has a mirror and sink inside the cubicle.
Without putting myself down too much, being realistic, I know that I’m not yet what some would call “passable”. When I dress and apply my make-up, I try my best to look and feel as feminine as I can, and often get strong feelings of gender euphoria when i feel confident and content in my demeanour. But I’d by no means expect people to see me as a cis gendered woman.
So I usually feel a little awkward when it comes to using the Womens bathroom in case it causes a stir amongst transphobic women who don’t believe trans women should be allowed to use Womens bathrooms. For years, I often thought that Unisex toilets were the way forward. No arguments that way. But hang on a moment. Why shouldnt Transgendered people not be allowed to use the bathroom associated to the gender that they identify with, just because of a few bigots who cant move on with the modern age. Wouldn’t accepting Unisex toilets as a solution be lie down to defeat, thus letting the bigots win?
Using the Gents
Unfortunately though, there has been a few times over the past year that I’ve been unable to find a disabled or Unisex toilet, or they have been closed. Feeling too nervous or awkward to use the Womens toilets, I’ve resorted to using the Men’s toilets. I really don’t like using them at all and when I do, I head straight into a cubicle and close the door. I don’t like being around the Men’s toilets at all.
When I sit in my own cubicle, I feel that I shouldn’t be there and that I should be in the Womens toilets. If only there had been Disabled toilets then I wouldn’t have this dilemma. Better still, if I didn’t feel so awkward about doing so, then I’d be using the right bathroom anyway.
Finding the Courage
I was passing through London waterloo Station last week when I found myself in urgent need of the loo. Much to my dismay, the toilet on the train wasn’t working so I was in a hurry to find one by the time I got into the station. To my further disappointment, the disabled toilet was locked and I don’t have a radar Key. So I was forced to choose between using the Womens toilets or the Men’s. “Enough is enough!” I thought to myself.
No more was I scurrying into men’s toilets feeling awkward and then feeling dysphoric afterwards for the rest of the day. Why should I? Just because some hateful minorities have a problem with it. I’m not about to let my own family hold me back. So damned if I’m letting some transphobic stranger with a bee in their bonnet.
The Right Place at Last
So, with full confidence, I strode casually yet stylishly into the women’s bathroom. I must admit, the first thing I done was to head straight into a cubicle as fast as I could and sat down. I’d done it at last. Now I felt like i was in the right place and no longer felt awkward.
When I’d finished in the loo, I came out and washed my hands confidently and unrushed even though the place was quite busy. I checked my hair and makeup in the mirror, and being content with how I looked, I stroll on back out to the train station. I was proud of myself.
What a feeling
So there has been a few occasions now that I have had to use the toilet when I’m out and about. I have quite confidently used the Womens toilet every time. Each time I do, the more confident I become and no longer dread the idea of people complaining that I’m in their space.
No longer do I feel the downer of gender dysphoria that I would always get each time I had to give in and use the Men’s bathrooms. Now, I feel a lot more confident in myself each time I use the Womens toilet. It’s a kinda feeling of validation that I never got before using the Disabled or Unisex bathrooms. Since breaking that ice, I feel a lot more confident in myself and so glad I did.
How about you?
How about you? Do you find it difficult using the bathroom you feel most comfortable with? Or did you at one time but now feel better with things? Why not tell us about it in the comments below. I’d love to hear your story. Or if you’d like to remain private, then feel free to email me.
